My brother said that recently he went to go visit a friend that has moved into his parent's home to help his parent out and probably help his living situation as well. While my brother was visiting his friend, the friend explained how his family can sometimes make his life a living nightmare and stressing him out. Sometimes the stress is over whelming! His family comes for a visit and tells him how he is doing everything wrong and if he would just help his parent out in a certain way and/or method everything would be going just hunky dang fine! Those family members that give all this fabulous advice do not live with the parent on a day in and day out basis and don't know that the method suggested has long since been tried and failed or only works for a very short time.
This of course took me back to when I was a teenage babysitter and I knew how to parent much better than there parents who are with them all day long! :0 How when you are single and yet know better than all married people on how to handle things in the home! Or just plain being a teenager and know everything better than any adult you happen to come in contact with . My brother said he was going to work on not telling his friend what to do and rather be a sounding board to his friend helping him that way. I can be a sounding board and a good one I just have to learn how to not take that problem home with me to join all the other problems of my world! Here is how ridiculous anxiety can be ... I can have anxiety about anxiety! I am having to learn that it is okay to have anxiety everyone has it! I have to say to myself.... Self if this were one of your friends and they were having a little anxiety about having surgery would you think it was okay... I would have to say yea self it is okay! (great news it is okay if I have anxiety!!!) Now here is my next dilemma.... self it is okay to have anxiety, just don't get too much anxiety!!!! I have to them master the am I having too much anxiety! (I have to report that I am still failing in this area! I have my 5 point examples like a hurricane just hit that is probably a five the highest setting and what does that look like! all my behavior skills I taught my students. My students actually had great results from my helping them with behavior issues. I think it is physician heal thyself! A doctor cannot be objective and heal themselves just as a teacher of behavior I fail with myself! Yet it is not failure yet!!! I am still learning!! It is okay for me to have stress tonight and can't control the amount of anxiety I have so it is okay to take an episode pill!!!! Slowly she turns step by step!!! lol That one is for you momma if you read it! not last night but the night before 34 robbers came knocking on the door! (the things we get in our heads when we are little and they never go away! every time the light is in your eyes do you start singing blinded by the light.... HAHAHAHAHA
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