I was just reading through my posts and realized that I hadn't proof read! Ooops! I am really good at making mistakes sometimes!
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I need to put in a disclaimer that I forgot to put in earlier... I was 18 when I married that rancher! I believe I am allowed to claim naivete! There was quite a bit of snow ( 1 to 2 feet) that winter and because of the wind the snow drifted to even higher levels sometimes reaching 4 feet. We were going to feed bales of hay to the cows as snow was covering any grains that had grown. I was trying to find a radio station on the truck when all of a sudden my husband started honking the horn, I looked up expecting to see another vehicle on what I thought might have been a road before the snow came. To my surprise it was not a vehicle at all! It seemed to be a hundred head of cattle or more that were running towards the truck from every side! I was startled to see so many cows. I swear some of the cattle had huge possessed looking eyes!!! I didn't know quite what to do. I am not quite sure what I thought the cattle were going to do, however, I quickly locked the truck door. My husband looked at me in a startled fashion and then he asked me if I had just locked the truck door. When I admitted that I had and in the admittance to the deed realized how ridiculous it was. I think my face had to be on fire with the redness of my blush. My husband started laughing. He kept laughing as he swung his door open and jumped out telling me to drive in a big loop while he cut open the bakes of hay and tossed them off the truck. The whole time he was throwing the bales of hay I tried to think of some logical excuse for my locking the door... I failed in that endeavor and had nothing to say for myself. Of course this wasn't the first time I had embarrassed myself learning to be a rancher's wife and it definitely wasn't the last! The first time I went to the way way back county my soon to be husband asked me to hold the reins of his horse. As he was handing me the reins he told me to not let the horse get to close to me because he bites! If you have ever been bitten by a horse you will understand my fear. I had been bitten by my friends pony many years ago and I still remember the pain.
Because I was holding the reins the horse of course the horse walked closer to me. I of course being afraid that the horse would bite me moved away a little. I kept hold of the reins so the horse wouldn't run off and have to be caught. The horse moving closer and my moving farther away continued until I was practically running with the reins in hand!!! My brother in law came over and asked me what I was doing. I told him I was trying to keep the horse from biting me. He started laughing and said why didn't you just tie him up to the fence that as long as I kept the reins in my hands the horse was going to follow me. The faster I moved the faster the horse is going to move closer towards me. ;) He said he would take me to the Kentucky Derby and put me in front of the horses and tell me they bite. He could win the derby by betting on me! City girl learning to be country girl was entertainment at all the social functions and of course the church functions!!! More to come! I didn't tell you about my court date. I arrived a little early and I saw my ex husband's attorney and he was without my ex. I found this to be very confusing... My ex is always there early awaiting the grace of my graceful presence. Then my attorney came into the courthouse. My ex still hadn't shown up and I made a comment about this. My attorney reply he won't be at court anymore unless the Judge orders him to.
I am sure you can imagine how perplexed I was. During court as I wasn't paying attention like I usually do, instead I was pondering about my ex not being to court until the judge ordered him to be there. His taking me on dates to the family court had been his way to stay in life because I had become his obsession. All of a sudden I remembered what had happen at our last court date. My ex gets a little intense with his obsession of me and the certainty that every thought that he has comes into his head is absolute truth and therefore he is always right! On that court date he talked directly to the Judge (ooops that is a big no no!!!!) to inform the judge that he was wrong and my ex was right. Then he sent a ranting threatening manic email to my attorney and asked her to send it onto me. My attorney is new to the case and was shocked by the ranting email. Sigh.... I unfortunately didn't prepare my attorney enough for my ex's obsession with me and his obsession with having to be right. The light went on in my brain and I then I remembered that the police were doing extra patrols past my house and some of them had even come to the door to introduce themselves so I would feel safe! One of my secrets is out!!! My neighbors have seen the police at the house... And I wanted to pretend that we fell in the normal range... I think I should have stated, we only have a little dysfunction on the dysfunction scale. I don't believe there are any "normal" families left! I think the internet Has taken away the veil of pretend and outed our dysfunction and let it be known worldwide!!! LOL If any of you are able to pull of the "normal" family hurray!!! Good for you!!" And now my ex has lost the privilege of going on court dates with me. Sigh.... He defeated himself in his obsession. HAHAHAHA I need to confess something. I recently had surgeries. I actually had 3 surgeries in 5 months. My body brought out the I am on strike sign and put it right in front of my brain. My body went on strike and decided it was just going to take a break for as long as it wanted. Here is the confession part... With my body on strike I got a little behind on my laundry and all the garbage cans were full (I forgot to put the garbage out to be picked up for 2 weeks.
My body was finally putting the strike sign down a little bit so I thought I would get a little bit of housework done. I think my body went on strike a little too long because it has forgotten how to work correctly. I put a load of laundry in and put the brand new liquid detergent on top of the dryer. I then empty the garbages into a big black bag. I leaned the bag against the wall to take out when I was ready. I turned around and somehow knocked the laundry soap off the dryer onto the floor upside down. As I hurried to pick up the laudry soap before it all poured out onto the floor I knocked over the garbage bag! Oh my gosh!!!! Then when I was taking dinner into my mom just a little bit later, I knocked the potatoes onto her bed. I think my body is fired and I need to get a new one!!!!!! I took my beautiful new car for it's first real drive. I found out that not only is my new car beautiful, it is amazing fantastical awesome greatness!!!! I was driving along the highway listening to klove and singing at the top of my lungs when all of a sudden my car dings. I couldn't believe why it was dinging... It has a built in radar detector!!!! Too bad I don't speed! I might be tempted to speed just a little bit.
Because I was driving for a little bit down the highway I put on my cruise control. The cars were slowing down in front of me so I was getting ready to put on the brake to take it out of cruise control when to my total amazement my car starts slowing down ALL ON IT'S OWN!!!! It has a sensor on the front of my car!!!! It slows the car to go to the flow of traffic and when they speed up again my car doesn't go any faster than the speed I set the cruise control to! When did cars become so smart?? My car practically drove itself!!! Since my car was practically driving itself I really got into the songs on Klove and even tried to harmonize really badly when all of a sudden I realized I went right on by my exit. Oooops! Just like in the song Even If by Mercy Me, we are sometimes held against the fire. My daughter Danielle, my mom and I are all being held to the fire. Through fire we are honed so we can thrive!
We are supporting each other physically, emotionally and monetarily! The rest of our family as rally round us! I know that there are many families that are close to each other; I have learned how amazingly close and helpful my family is. My daughter Danielle is a single mother of 5 little girls trying to find employment that pays enough for her to support her family. I am getting my health back and so is my mother. We are finding our way with little diversions, prayer and the Lord's help. Hey Ladies we've got this! We are beautiful, strong and thriving! I will continue to thrive as I get in my beautiful red car and go on my family court date tomorrow! Sigh... No matter what my ex tries to do to get my attention I will just need to let him down tomorrow again. Sorry I am just not interested! ;) I am 56 years old and just recently bought a car. At 56 I believe most people have most likely purchased several cars. I am unique in the fact that this is the very first car that I have purchased! I have purchased a home but never a car!
In fact buying the car seemed harder to me than buying a home. My dad or my husbands have always taken car of making sure that I have a vehicle that works. I am thriving by having firsts in my life. Trying to decide on what car was an internet and going to several dealerships with anxiety. I decided to make the decision easier on myself and go with a tried and true make and model; the Toyota Rav4. I looked at several of them and could not find a winner! Then I was told about a red Rav4. It was going to be 250 more than the silver one that I had already found. I said to my mom that there as a red Rav4 and I have always wanted a red car. My mom said to me you are 56 get the color you want! Check out my new wheels! I am Ally. I am a mom of 7 children and grandmother to 11. I have 2 ex husbands. Wait what??? 2 ex husbands??? How did that happen??? When I was a little girl and dreaming of how my life would turn out I never envisioned what actually has happened. I do not believe too many people live the life they think they will. I almost lived the opposite or maybe I didn't.
When I was a kid I loved to say things that I felt would shock people. I anticipated the shocked gasps with glee. If I had know that all those shockers I use to say would be closer to how my life turned out I might have kept my mouth shut. And then again probably not! My first husband was a cowboy that took me to the middle of nowhere. He took me right back to the land of little house on the prairie! (Wait... what happened to my glam condo in San Francisco and my business executive husband!) Instead of learning how to set a beautiful table for my dinner guests... I learned how to scream really loudly and dive on top of the kitchen table as I saw my dinner guest... The little field mouse! As I learned my way in this adventure in the way way back country I believe I was a great source of entertainment for the few neighbors that I had. :) I definitely found amazing friends. My son is currently deployed overseas and like all mom's I worry about him. I especially worry about him because this is his first time being deploy. We have made Sunday our day to talk to each other and if possible to video chat.
Today as we talked he said, Oh by the way when I went to church today I ran into my second cousin. It is truly amazing to me that these 2 wonderful young men find family in church a 1/2 a world away! |
I am Ally. I am the center of my universe and I can determine whether to be a victim, survivor or thriver. At one time or another I have been all of the above... I am choosing to thrive!
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